It’s the big night. She told you that it’s all up to you. You really like this girl and want it to be perfect. What are some sure ways to impress her without overdoing it?

Here are some things to remember:

Dress just a bit nicer than the way you would if you were going to see your mother

It’s a first meeting so you want it to be as comfortable as possible. Dress casual and comfortable. Save that suit for a later meeting. The last thing you need is to make the woman feel as if she’s underdressed.

Ask questions

Find out what kinds of foods she likes and most importantly, if she’s allergic to anything. You want to get a general background before you plan. Don’t ever take the “we can just go wherever” response. Ask to know further and explain that you are just trying to find something great.

Choose a laid back place that has some sort of hands on experience

Look for a restaurant that has something where you are forced to interact beyond looking at a menu. There are many places that have something visual while you’re eating. Get appetizers that are finger food. Some places let you help make the food at your table. Some places will cook it in front of you. All of these things will instantly start conversation and subtly encourage intimacy.

Avoid trying a place with mixed reviews on the first date

The last thing you want is a horrible dining experience due to a bad wait staff or bad food to ruin an otherwise potentially great date. While it’s true that it’s really about the company more than the actual meal, one rude person can really put a damper to your evening.

Do your homework

Ask around. Check yelp or another local restaurant review board. Ask your friends to double check. You want to aim towards somewhere that has a review of 3 stars or higher in quality.

Etiquette never goes out of style

Open doors and pull out chairs. Chivalry isn’t dead, but it’s surprisingly becoming less common in the dating scene. It’s amazing how much it will help your case if you are mannerly and a gentleman.

Maintain consistent eye contact

Avoid looking down at your food while she’s talking. Always look straight forward in her eyes. Nod your head and be attentive and do not interrupt. Pay attention to the details. Do not dominate the entire conversation.

Sharing is caring

If you’re enjoying the food, offer her some. It’s an easy way to show you are open and thinking of her needs. Also if she’s open to it, ask her to share a desert. If she agrees, always, always, always let her have the last bite. This is very important. Some women will take offense if you don’t.

Your first dining experience should not be intimidating. It’s not meant to be. It’s a first date. Keep it simple and relaxed because that’s the way it should be. Be yourself. Get to know each other. And remember, you’re cuter when you don’t try.

Happy dining you go getter, you.